Friday, 10 March 2017

How to win friends and influence people

This book was written in 1936 and an entire 'industry' has been built upon it.

Copy and paste the link for the Wikipedia entry, or just use google. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Win_Friends_and_Influence_People

It is a good book, obviously. It is a 'self help' book. As I have written a self help book, I thought I would explain why.

His book is very much about succeeding in business and becoming a successful member of society. His book explained how, brilliantly.

I find the concept of winning friends to be offensive. Friends may be gained and lost but they are not prizes at a fairground.

Influencing people is a polite way of saying manipulate.

These are the main two rules of our society and both disgust me.

The book was brilliant and at the time of publication, it was something the author could and should have been very proud of. I am fully aware that Dale Carnegie doesn't interpret the title of his book in the same way that I do.

However, it is unfortunate that its success has actually stalled mankind's journey on the road to enlightenment. Very unfortunate. I blame no-one. There is no evil conspiracy, just not enough critical thought.

My book continues what Dale Carnegie started. He inspired a great many people to do their very best and develop new technologies and industries. It is time to take another step on our journey.

My book discusses how you can become a far better version of you, should you choose too. Dale Carnegie wrote about how individuals could become far better members of society. The difference is crucial. His book was the right book in 1936. My book is the right book, now.

I hope you are reading this and are amazed at my confidence. If so, follow the practices in my book and become a far more confident version of yourself.

My confidence is far greater than you might imagine. I had only written book one of the trilogy, when I wrote this post.

To quote Dale Carnegie,

It isn't what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.

Writing the Mindful Being Trilogy is important to me. I am thoroughly enjoying it. I would describe my mental state as happy.

There are a great many people who are both happy and successful and are proud to have been on a Dale Carnegie Training Course. I have complete respect for their view and absolute respect for Dale Carnegie.

Once again, I will quote the great man.

Most of the important things in the world have been accomplished by people who have kept on trying when there seemed to be no hope at all.

I find the above quote to be very inspiring. I feel in my bones that Dale Carnegie wrote that specifically for me and people like me. I feel the full support of Dale Carnegie as I write this post and I fully believe he wants me to complete the trilogy.

A final quote,

You can make more friends in two months by becoming interested in other people than you can in two years by trying to get other people interested in you.

This one resonates with me and the trilogy of Mindful Being books I will write. To me, it is absolutely clear that his title was merely a marketing tool. 'winning friends' speaks to our competitive nature and was the correct way of framing the book at that time.

I continue his great work and I ask yet another favour of those who become Mindful Beings. Read or re-read, 'How to win friends and influence people', from your new perspective as a Mindful Being. There is absolutely no need for me to rewrite that body of work.

However, I shall give an example. Dale Carnegie wrote;-
When dealing with people, let us remember we are not dealing with creatures of logic. We are dealing with creatures of emotion, creatures bristling with prejudices and motivated by pride and vanity.

To give this some context, he is not speaking of close friends, family and colleagues, the subject of book two of my trilogy. He is writing about everyone else, the subject of book three of my trilogy. He basically cautions us that their monkey is likely to be dominant. He is calling these people creatures of emotion. He is correct. Unless, of course, these people had understood book one of my trilogy, then Mr Carnegie would have been dealing with Mindful Beings. (This is why I make book one available for free as often as I am able. It simply makes life so much easier for everyone.) My trilogy, addresses the same concerns as Dale Carnegie, using three powerful concepts in one mindset. I am sure he would have been fascinated, as I am in him. My trilogy does not replace the work of Dale Carnegie, it merely illuminates its timeless quality allowing us a far deeper understanding.

Some of you will quickly read my book and determine that I am arrogant. May be. Quickly reading my book is a waste of your time. Knowledge is NOT understanding. Knowledge is the greatest barrier to understanding that will ever exist.

If you do download my book, please take your time with it and feel free to adapt the presented ideas and concepts to best suit you. If you want more, then carefully research what it is that you want more of. If what you want does not exist, blog about it or write a book about it. Paste links in the comments section, I only ask that you explain their relevance.

For those who are heavily invested in Dale Carnegie, consider my trilogy to be a roughly hewn lens. One that needs a great deal of reshaping, customisation and adaptation. Once complete, this new lens will allow the creator to view Dale Carnegie in a new light. To more fully appreciate his work and more fully appreciate how great a man he is and continues to be. All I offer is a new perspective and a method of developing a deeper awareness. What you offer is entirely your choice.

Thanks for indulging me.

If anything I wrote angered, irritated or provoked any 'negative' emotional response, then you actually do need to read my book, with far greater care than you read this post.

Thank you Dale Carnegie for your gifts, without them mankind would be so much poorer.

It is time for each of us to share our gifts too

Book one of my Trilogy:-

Mindfulness of Self by David Roy Watkinson



You will need an amazon account, which are free.
You can read the ebook on 'any' device.
You can download a sample for free, at anytime.
In 2017, book one of the Trilogy will be free on:-
March 30
April 21
May 1
May 19

The book is my dream given form.

Carnegie gave us the foundation of our great society and should we create a lens to see them,
the seeds of an even greater civilisation.