Society is rules and laws. It is what we have imposed upon ourselves, otherwise we would have anarchy.
We could go a different way, by using commonsense and our own sense of right and wrong.
The truth is that we have both systems operating together. I have often suggested that society arises from the ancient parts of our brain that are governed by 'fear' and that a second system, civilisation, spontaneously arises from our humanity. Thus women generally provide the love that glues a civilisation together and men provide and build the rest based on a mutual respect for 'usefulness'.
A quick example of this is buy a man a drill kit for Christmas and he is happy.
Buy a woman a vacuum for Christmas and she never vacuums again.
Now, I am not enforcing gender roles upon people. Just pointing out the obvious. There will be a great deal of social conditioning too but we are all guilty of that.
I generally state that we have lost the balance between society and civilisation. That 'fear' is promoted far beyond what is useful and that this gives society the upper hand to civilisation. High levels of fear are induced by and create society. Whereas high levels of love and respect create civilisation.
That said, the title of this piece is psychopaths and society. Most members of society cannot detect the presence of a psychopath. Which is an interesting topic in itself. I can detect psychopaths and have dated a few as they are very interesting intellectually as well as emotionally invigorating. In short, I really like psychopaths even male ones. Now, I care not for how society describes a psychopath.
A perfect society is a civilisation with all of the humanity removed (or never developed)
A perfect psychopath is a human being without any humanity.
In this blog piece, humanity is the embodiment of love and respect.
Psychopaths do provide a great service to everybody as they 'mix the pot'. As the moon 'stirs' the oceans, a psychopath stirs humanity. Without the action of the moon we would not have life on this planet. Without the action of psychopaths we would still be living in caves and really enjoying it as we would be living in a civilisation.
Hopefully, you are beginning to grasp the concepts I am attempting to describe. You don't need an opinion just yet. Let me take this concept a little further. Imagine a psychopath being born into a pure civilisation as described above. They would hate it. A psychopath does not have the mental abilities to understand a civilisation. A psychopath needs rules and laws, not that they follow them but they need us to. Otherwise they feel lost and alienated. A psychopath does not understand love, respect and justice. Fairness and right and wrong are so weak in a psychopath that they need rules and structure. A psychopath knows when they have been wronged and will wreak vengeance accordingly. Massively out of proportion 'vengeance' as psychopaths do not grasp the concept of fairness. Thus a psychopath needs rules and laws as well as a societal structure of who is in charge and who gets access to what resources. Again. a psychopath will not follow these rules but needs us to follow them.
Thus psychopaths have a fundamental need for societies rules and laws to make up for the fact that a psychopath finds humanity deeply disturbing because that is what being a psychopath truly means.
So we live in a society because psychopaths have been highly motivated to create it. Fear is the tool that psychopaths wield to motivate the rest of us to accept societies rules and laws. A civilised being living in our society would be saddened by our collective lack of humanity and abundance of stupidity.
Psychopaths are necessary and useful. A psychopath will always attempt to create rules and laws. Our job is to be aware that this is just what psychopaths do and to use their ideas against which to judge our own civilisation. What we mustn't do is that which we have done. Let them build a society of rules and laws.
Back to social conditioning. You still do not need to have an opinion about this blog post. It is better that you don't. Just bear it in mind as being possibly true. Or perhaps, just a description of a parallel universe. Your task now is to simply observe the society around you and interact with it as you please. Same as always.
Let me take you on a journey. Imagine an alternative universe around ten thousand years ago. We have a tribe of cavemen. Twenty or thirty people living as an extended family. The earth is incredibly fertile and the rivers well stocked with fish and wild fruit and berries growing everywhere. There are some big and dangerous animals but these people have fire, sharp sticks, and hefty stones capable of being propelled quite violently with catapults. The big and dangerous wild animals soon learn to keep well out of the way of these people. There are no rules and laws. There is no banking sector or government. The wise elders dispense justice to the group. Commonsense is in ascendance. This is a civilisation.
Imagine a psychopath being born into this group. They will not be comfortable in the group as they do not understand it. They will exaggerate the dangers of the wild animals and try to create a fast response team who answer to the one person. ideally themselves but it really doesn't matter. This imposing a structure that is easily understood. Imposing rules and laws upon the fast response team, which will then spill into what was a civilisation. The psychopath is either successful in turning the civilisation into a society through exaggerated fear of the big animals or they leave and try the same 'trick' on another group. It is likely that the psychopath will ultimately get the newly formed 'society' at war with neighbouring 'civilised' groups. The psychopath will not rest until everyone lives by the rules and laws of a society. Rules and laws that psychopaths only use to manipulate us with.
Imagine another universe where the psychopaths go from tribe to tribe trying to fan the sparks of fear into flames and yet each tribe tells them that they are being silly. The psychopath will go to greater and greater extremes and will ultimately become incredibly dangerous. Thus they must be spotted with great ease and then diverted from creating fear to doing something actually useful. Perhaps designing better weapons. Devising training to use the defensive weapons. Creating a production line to more quickly produce a range of tools, leaving more time for other persuits. Allow the psychopath to do that which they are compelled to do, create rules and structure. Just don't allow rules to become laws. Don't allow rules to overwhelm commonsense. Never allow the structure to become (semi) permanent
Imagine an alternative universe where psychopaths have created a world of rules, laws and structure. You go to work and you have a structure of line manager, sales office coordinator, warehouse associate, external sales executive, regional sales coordinator, technical sales support manager, robot consultant, human resources manager, commercial director, operations director, financial controller, van driver and cleaner. all with their own set of rules, different access to resources and various outfits that ought to be worn. Well, I have just described our society to you. A civilisation is much the same but instead of having rules you have areas of responsibility. The van driver being responsible for the van and it being driven appropriately, taking the right goods to the right places in an order optimised for efficiency but taking into account the time preferences and needs of the customers. The van driver needn't actually drive the van. If he is needed elsewhere he could organise the route but have someone else drive it. The warehouse associate and everyone else having a similarly flexible approach to their contribution to whatever service the company exists to serve.
This is not exactly anarchy. It is commonsense. The psychopath will hate it. The psychopath will cause as much trouble as possible and direct blame towards those not sticking to their assigned roles and following the societal rules of that role. Usually, the psychopath will succeed. The psychopath will successfully fan a few sparks of fear into flames. It is not just psychopaths that need rules and laws. Normal people, overly sensitive to fear will also want rules and will avoid responsibility at all costs. A civilised person will face a major challenge in changing this societal based environment into a civilised one. Damping down the fear response in others is necessary. Maintaining control of yourself is far harder. Some effort ought to be expended calming the psychopath. Eventually, if the psychopath cannot create enough fear, blame, aggression and hostility for the manager to be forced to impose punishments, rules and structure then the psychopaths attack is focused on the office manager. Although side campaigns are still fought. Now the battle enters its final stages. The societal rules have been weakened and a civilised environment of commonsense is starting to flourish.
For many business owners it is important to realise that a sales office based on societal rules turns over about half the revenue of a sales office based on civilised commonsense. For the workers of the business, working in a civilised environment is far preferable to working within the confines of the rules of a societal based office. A customer is highly likely to value doing business with civilised human beings than people who adhere to the rules and flout commonsense.
Anyway, back to the completely imaginary story above which is not based upon where I work! I don't actually work alongside one psychopath.
The showdown. The psychopath is now at war with the office manager. This is a fight to the death. Not literally but that will be what it feels like. Will the office manager allow the psychopath to overwhelm them with fear or will the psychopath feel compelled to leave? I suppose I could describe two universes where each outcome does occur. Ultimately, the battle is not between a psychopath and the office manager. The battle is within each of us, will we continue to let fear overcome our commonsense?
Losing to fear confines us to the cage of societal rules which appease the psychopaths.
Should commonsense prevail, then the psychopath will leave or be found something useful to do.
All fairly obvious stuff but it is difficult not to get caught up in 'fear'. Should you wish to work in a pleasant environment or double the revenue of your business then you must start with developing your own awareness. Only then moving on to being aware of others. Then you can start to sensitise yourself to the very real demands of society. Finally, you can create that which you wish to create with far greater ease and understanding. Luckily, I have written three very short books to start you on this journey. I intend making these free over the Christmas holiday because few are willing to pay for them!
Hopefully, the books will encourage proper writers to write far better versions of them.
So, what is not to like.
Business owners can double turnover. (Could you employ a few more people to cope with the additional work load please?)
Staff get to work in a fantastic environment
Customers get the level of service that they believe they deserve
As you may be aware, I make up the statistics because this saves me a great deal of time
I don't bother citing others work as this saves me a great deal of time
I don't have staff as I cannot afford any
I make all this stuff up as I don't have the resources to do the actual research
According to my book sales, I am wasting my time.
It is my time to waste but |I| believe that I am using it in the most productive manner possible
Be seeing you
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Executive Summary
psychopaths have used fear to motivate us to create this cage we call society
it is the job of civilised beings to reduce fear, in ourselves primarily
Contentment and productivity increase as we move from a rules based society to a commonsense based civilisation
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Final point
Many people 'fear' for my safety from 'them'
There really isn't a 'them' to be scared of
psychopaths won't understand a single word that I have ever written and so will choose to ignore me
bankers and govt are so convinced that without society we have anarchy and so already know my work is ignorant nonsense and so will not waste a moments thought on dealing with me
the intelligence services could be a threat but they are completely of society and so will already know that this work is nonsense.
someone in the intelligence services may be sufficiently aware to label me as a threat but my value as an asset (to them) far exceeds that minor cost to others. Therefore, they will neither label or discuss me as that diminishes my value (to them). They will in fact, protect me as a valuable intelligence asset - provided the cost of this is far lower than my value to them. (OBVIOUSLY)
Finally, I am not really bothered about my safety.
Perhaps I ought to be 'scared' of losing my job. Being unable to afford living in a two hundred year old home. Losing my Civic Type S or my Kawasaki W800 or perhaps my partner or my cat. Well, this all could come to pass because of me and my blogs. Or it might not. I might get a civic Type R next, a Kawasaki Z900RS, a dog or go live in a RV. The future is not the past and neither are the 'here and now'. At this moment in time, I am (both gathering and) expressing my thoughts and fear is absent.
Take care, don't worry, be happy
PS I save lots of time not editing this stuff - bear in mind that I have no staff and this cost me three hours to write and many more to 'research'.
