Our sexual market place value is a score of 1 to 10 regarding how generally attractive we are. This is despite the fact that we know that looks are only half the equation.
This cognitive dissonance causes us harm that most are not fully aware of. Once we are aware of a thing we can deploy our intelligence to dissolve any harm.
We don't change society, we change ourselves. (This then changes our perception of society, which changes society.)
So, when we see someone and form an instant opinion regarding their attractiveness, scoring them out of 10 but with only five points available for looks. Then the other five points are to determined by talking to them. Thus we still have a 10 point system, same as most of our culture. Only our system takes into account personality and compatibility with ourselves.
Do you completely understand the power of this slight change in your thought processes?
Let us imagine that I am average looking, so that scores me a 3. I have an average personality, so that scores me another 3. I am a six out 10. I could get myself a nice haircut and fancy set of clothes and increase my score by one. I could work on my personality a little and increase that score by one as well. I am now an eight of ten, which I feel is impressive. I am happy with that score.
Walking down the street I may see a stunning human being, they are a five. As I am a 7 or 8, can strike up a conversation with confidence. They may shun me, thus providing me with confirmation that their personality score is zero. Their overall score is just five and mine is significantly higher.
Now, we can say someone is a five looks wise but if they particularly appeal to us, we can give them a bonus point. If someone is highly compatible with us in terms of personality, then give them another bonus point. Thus if we meet someone who is average looking (3) but something physical about them is particulalry pleasing to us they become a 4. After chatting with them we find that they have a great personality (4+5=9) and they really respond well to us (+1 personality bonus) then we have found a perfect 10.
Many of us may have an average looking partner but in our eyes we see them as a ten is now easily explained. 3 (for looks) + 5 (for personality) + 2 (bonus points) = 10
Next time we see a 'super model' or 'hunk', they only score 5. Our partner will easily outscore them.
Should this post go viral, the beauty industry will be decimated and people will be so much happier with themselves and their partners. We know this in our hearts and in our bones. By fully aligning our thoughts with our hearts and bones, we simply become authentic human beings and not so easily divided and conquered.
Take care.
